Hey guys, I just need to rant. I met this guy last year through a friend, everything happened so fast. We vibed instantly, slept together that same day, and became official the next day. He was sweet, had a car, always nice, and I honestly didn’t want to lose him, so I tolerated a lot. I kept quiet when he acted up, overlooked red flags, and sometimes when he tried to give me money, I would even decline because I wanted him to know I was real, not after anything. By January, things were still fine. Up till around April, everything seemed okay until I found out about another lady. She is fair like me, tall, and well built. At first, he denied it, but later admitted they had a thing. I knew he cheated, but I overlooked it because I felt I was still the main woman. Then everything started changing. My sweet man suddenly became busy. He started speaking polished English like he was in a new class. This same man with a strong Igbo accent suddenly started sounding refined. His wardrobe became neater, his skincare changed, his perfume changed, even the way he carried himself changed.
Then he started complaining that I made too many videos at his house. Not long after, I saw a post from that same lady and her sister. She is not the social media type, but her sister is. My gut told me something was off. That was when I realised this lady was changing my man. I complained, but he said he could not block her. Imagine. Then he celebrated her birthday and bought her a wig, something he had never done for me. The painful part, the wig was from my cousin’s store. I found out through his sister, who does not even like that lady, and she told me the girl is a baby mama. When I found out, I cried. I went to confront him. He apologised, but it was never the same again. I started feeling like the side chick. He became scared of her, overly cautious, overly quiet. I checked his gallery, this man who used to be strict and private now smiles and makes videos with her. And to make it worse, all his friends seem to love her. The same people who used to hype me up now act like she is the perfect match. They follow her, comment under her posts, and even hang out together.
I felt invisible, like I never even existed in his world. Recently, I slipped and called him out for ignoring me, and you will not believe, he mistakenly called me her name. That day, something in me broke. Sade, that is her name, and I swear, Sade, I will get my man back. To think both of us had thick Igbo accents, and now it is just me. This man now tells me I am everywhere, that I jump from one place to another and make too many videos. But honestly, I do not even blame him because he is not the same man I fell in love with. This baby mama barely lifts a finger, always on lashes, nails, soft life steady. Me, I am the one cooking, cleaning, trying to please him, but for her, he turns into a servant. Her birthday pictures came out, elegant, glowing, everything soft life represents. I almost died from jealousy. The day I saw her driving his car like a princess, I knew it was over. Because when it is me, I am the help, when it is her, she is the queen. Now he buys her luxury wigs, bouncy hair, expensive perfumes, everything.
Girls, I am telling you, avoid baby mamas. Some of them know how to tie a man’s soul in silence. But one thing I have learned, no matter how much you love a man, never lose yourself trying to prove your worth, because when he is done eating at your table, he might still chase the woman who serves him crumbs. And to you, Sade, keep shining for now. The same way you got him is the same way you will lose him. Karma does not forget, she just waits for her turn.
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