Hi guys, I do not even know where to start from. My guy and I have been dating since 2020. Things were going well with us, we love each other and I trusted him. Along the line, I got pregnant in 2022, and that was the month he travelled and could not see my parents, but his mum and his siblings showed up in my parents’ house on his behalf. Along the line, I went to stay at his apartment, which he had before travelling, but the apartment was for their dad before he died, and his mum has remarried and is in someone else’s house. It got to a stage where his mum started talking badly about me, to the extent that the brother of my man is a thief, he stole my generator and I questioned him why he did that. His mum heard about what he did and she came to meet me and started shouting at me, abusing me, saying her son is always taking care of me and I am spending all his son’s money, whereas she did not know I recorded everything she was saying and sent it to her son. My guy got angry and questioned his mum why she did that and why she did not face the person that stole from me.
All this happened after I gave birth to our child, it is a long story. So in January 2024, my guy came from the UK to Nigeria and we went to the house he built and started living together. I almost forgot, he came on the purpose of switching from student visa to work visa, and the person that wanted to help him stopped picking his calls after taking over N15 million. We started looking for a way to get the person’s family, but nothing seemed to work. He started getting angry and hitting me, beating me, and at the same time I checked his phone when he came back and saw he had been cheating on me while I was carrying his child here in Nigeria. I started hating him, but he is a very good guy and he cares for our needs. Along the line, he started getting broke, and my mum had to send me some money for upkeep. I learnt a good skincare formulation, but the money I was supposed to start with became our feeding money. I kept encouraging him that everything will be fine, and that he should calm down. We kept calling the person, he blocked him, and we later found out he was not the only person who was scammed.
His mum started discouraging him, taking him to different places, and he started bathing with different soaps and going to different alfas. He started misbehaving in the house as if my legs were bad and the cause of his problem. Any small issue, he would say my legs are not good, and I would be like, who does not have problems, it is not as if we just started being together. He would say different kinds of things to me. Thankfully, he used another method like sponsorship to travel again in July 2025. It was not up to two weeks before I noticed he stopped picking my calls. When I asked what happened, he said he cannot continue with the relationship, that I always fight him. I said fight you, how am I not reacting to the issues you caused? I caught him cheating severally and I still forgave him because I do not want to be a single mother and it is not easy to let go of a five-year relationship. He was not remorseful at all. It has been five months of us not talking properly, but he still does whatever his child needs. I begged him to please forgive me and let us work things out.
Despite everything, I still posted him and wished him on his birthday last month. Since I have been dating him, I did not give any other guy attention, talk less of having anything with any guy, and he knows that. I am just confused about what to do. Please advise me, guys. Ejoor, tori Olohun. No insults please. Who will even want to go for a single mother like this?
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