I got married last year, and honestly, I don’t even know where things went wrong. Barely two months into the marriage, my husband started chatting different girls, including his exes. I complained and tried to make things work, but he never changed. We live in a house my parents gave us, so we don’t even pay rent, yet he constantly disrespected me, rubbed shit in my face. He is a betting addict also, he uses his whole salary to bet at times. Any time I get seriously angry, he will make it look like I am the problem, he would say I am not submissive. How am I going to be submissive while he constantly disregards my emotions? He would say I will regret it one day and everything will soon clear. He said he will get married to a second wife, someone that could barely take care of himself and even us, me and my child. Recently, I found out he’s been dating another woman since around August, but I didn’t know till last month. Our marriage is just barely a year old, but he has a 3-month relationship in it. I once told him that if he impregnates another girl, I would k!|| him, I just said it,
not knowing that he has been intimate with this girl and she told him that she missed her period, though she has seen it now. I do see his chats till now, he asked her to keep it. He then messaged me immediately, “you are threatening to k!|| me if I impregnate another lady, don’t worry I will soon leave the house for you”. The second day I took the key and left to my parents’ place, I told them everything and they asked me to take his loads out. He called and said, you have thrown me out when you know that I don’t have anywhere to go. He has moved to his parents’ place and he told his family that I want to harm him, they didn’t bother to call me. I have reported to his parents before, they didn’t take side with him though, they scolded him but no changes still. He also said that I’ll be the one to beg him last last. He said no man will marry me and I will become a single mum, meanwhile the girl he is seeing is a single mum of one. Funny thing is when I saw his chat, I was like this man really loves her, he never said all these sweet words to me. But I saw where he chatted another girl up,
“where and how can we see low-key”, but that one didn’t reply him. After this fight, he messaged and body shamed me, saying I don’t have yansh and breast, that I will miss the s€x. I am just wondering, what will I miss? S€x that he does only when he wants to, and when I go to him he would deny me. Sometimes I m@$turbate codedly even while he is around. He said a man can deny his wife, but the wife can’t deny the husband s€x. I didn’t know this man was a cheerful giver outside, and he even gives head, something that he doesn’t do for me. I don’t stress this man, in fact before we got married, we acted like 5 and 6. I never imagined my marriage wouldn’t last. He didn’t give me reasons to doubt him, even though he was cheating then, but I didn’t know until we got married. I feel so heartbroken right now, even though I know I don’t have to, but I can’t help it. My heart is grieving. Beginning of this year, I would kneel down and pray to God to make me strong and give me peace of mind, but right now I feel so sad. Maybe I shouldn’t have sent him out?
Maybe I should have just endured? Maybe I shouldn’t have checked his phone? I pity my child so much, I would just look at her and say, I am sorry I chose the wrong father for you or maybe I am the wrong mother. It is well sha. My parents don’t stress him, in fact I don’t either, just that when I saw that he betrayed me, that became the reason we constantly fight. Before we started dating, he said he has been crushing on me for a long time. How did love turn into something else? He has what to tell people now, she wants to k!|| me, that is why I left, someone that didn’t leave until I sent him out. If he was so scared of me, why didn’t he leave? Why did he still stay and sleep in the same bed with me? It is well sha. No matter how much hurt I feel, I will never beg him. He didn’t ask about his child yesterday at all. He said, so at 25 I will be having a second husband, sheybi I don’t have shame abi? As if him, he isn’t a single father. I just pray that I get past this stage and be fine again.
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