I have noticed a pattern in my past relationships. My ex-boyfriends suddenly ghost me after about a year or so of being in a relationship with them. It just comes out of the blue. One day, we are a perfectly normal and happy couple; the next day, I can’t reach them. It’s not like they block me or anything. They just stop replying to my texts. Then, after about three weeks or so, they come back and start apologising, telling me they were going through a rough patch and needed space. Needing space is not my problem. At least let me be aware instead of just ghosting me. What annoys me is when they come back to beg. My second boyfriend actually begged me to take him back for more than a year. As a matter of fact, just earlier this month, he messaged me and asked me out on a date, even after I told him countless times that I was now with someone new. Now the someone new has done the same thing. The pattern is becoming alarming. I won’t say I am the best girlfriend out there because we all have our ups and downs, but I will proudly say this anywhere: I am always the best version of myself when I’m in a relationship.
Even these boyfriends have said countless times that I am always emotionally and mentally available for them and that they appreciate it. I honestly wish I could post screenshots. I don’t bill them because I work, and I also have a family that provides fully for me. My parents and siblings don’t joke with me at all, so I don’t stress my partners for literally anything. This is not me trying to toot my own horn. I’m just trying to understand where I go wrong and why they keep ghosting me, only to come back later. I think I have a problem I’m not aware of. Twice might be a coincidence, but certainly not a third time. Now I’m even scared of getting into relationships because I’m starting to expect them to leave too. It’s getting tiring at this point.
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