Hi everyone. I’m an orphan and will be 25 in a few months. I stay with an aunt, and she’s a widow with three kids. She manages a venture she used to share with my mum until she died. I live with her, but it seems like I’m better off alone. She badmouths me to the rest of the family, especially when she senses that someone is trying to help me. One time, we had a clash, and from what she said, they think I’m involved in my mum’s death. They expected me to account for all the money given to me by mutuals. I didn’t because I had to sort out bills relating to my mum. They knew about it but overlooked that and tagged me rebellious since then. I only relate to the very few people who are not close to her; hence, she can’t speak to them about me. Sometimes I feel spiritually caged, like my wings are clipped, and I feel the urge to fly away or disappear. Also, I used to do really well until I moved in with her. Thankfully, things have been changing lately, and she has become more aggressive. I do everything for myself, including feeding, clothing, courses, and other expenses. I’m only obligated to her because I stay under her roof, but it’s been really stressful lately.
She’s indirectly told me she wants me to leave, and when she addresses me, she speaks to me like an outsider compared to her children. An example of the words she uses is: “When the owners of the house are not cleaning it, why would the outsider think of cleaning it?” I do clean, but she just doesn’t get satisfied. She hears me washing the toilet, and the next minute she’s there washing it again. She also claims I’m involved in some sort of spiritual activity. I am not. I’ve once tried to leave, but she overheard and told my uncle, who in turn called and threatened me not to leave. That was a few years ago though. I know nobody is going to stop me now. I’ve become more sharp-eyed. Now the issue is that I’m trying to leave. I’ve had a few people tell me to keep enduring and use the money for other things, like furthering my education or starting a business. Some even said I should be patient until I’m ready to get married. I’m single, and I don’t see myself settling down until I’m about 27. My mental health is very important, but I feel like I can’t last another year or even a few more months here. At the same time, I don’t want to make a decision I’ll eventually regret. What would you advise me to do?
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