I’m a single mom to a 2 year old boy. I’ve always been a lover girl, but I made a decision not to settle with my baby daddy after finding out his family didn’t like me and he had been hiding it. I was already pregnant at the time, but I refused to walk into a situation I knew would hurt me in the long run. I watched my mom go through unkindness from my dad’s family, and I promised myself I wouldn’t repeat that cycle. Thankfully, my family stood by me and supported my decision. I told my baby daddy we should co-parent, and at first, he agreed. But things changed. He kept asking for sex, I kept rejecting, and had to set clear boundaries. Eventually, he walked away completely, saying he would come back for the child when he grows up. Since then, I’ve been raising my son on my own through my business and with the help of my family. It hasn’t been easy, but I’ve grown stronger. Now the problem is, for as long as I can remember, I’ve known I was attracted to the same gender. But because of my background and how society views it, I suppressed that part of myself. I’ve successfully done that for years.
I would have quiet crushes and move on, pretending it wasn’t there. But everything changed after I had my child. Facing judgment from society and going through life on my own gave me tougher skin. I got to a point where I genuinely stopped caring about what people had to say. I felt better. And then… I met her. What started as a simple friendship became something more. She asked me out, and I said yes. For the first time in a long time, I felt something peaceful, something soft, something real. These past few months have been beautiful. Even though it’s long distance, we talk every day, and I feel seen and understood. But lately, the thoughts have crept in again. What will people say? Will I be judged? Will I be accepted? It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions. This is my first relationship in almost three years, and I truly love it here. It feels calm, it feels right, but I’m still learning how to fully embrace this part of myself without fear. I don’t have all the answers yet, but I know that I deserve peace, love, and happiness in whatever form that comes.
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