My situationship story 2025. We met on the 19th of April on a Saturday night. He took my number, then texted me on Sunday night, wanting to hang out after work, which I declined and said I was free the next day, Monday, which was meant to be my off day, but I worked on that day. Fast forward to April 26th, we had our first date and it felt like I’ve known him forever. I hugged him, gave him a peck on the lips, and left. Thinking that was all, I wasn’t expecting much after figuring he wasn’t based here. He asked me out again 2 days later, on the 28th of April, and of course I was free and I liked him instantly. We headed to the first location and were meant to later go to the beach, but rain had other plans. He asked me to go home with him. I felt reluctant at first, but I kind of felt safe with him and I agreed. I went home with a stranger I had barely known for 3 days and even spent the night. I met his dad, who was a very chilled man, and he was welcoming as well. It rained that night and he was so sweet and soft. He asked if he could hold and touch me and I said yes. I really can’t explain how I felt, but I knew I was getting attached to this stranger.
I left the next morning because I needed to be at work, even though I didn’t want to leave his side. I just wanted to keep laying beside him. He sent me the sum of N100k. He was leaving in 3 days’ time and asked to see me again. This time was for brunch because I had work in the evening. We hanged out, spoke at length, and I was missing him already even before he left. I loved every bit of my hangouts with him and I was missing his absence already. I didn’t want him to leave because I had the fear that he would forget about me when he goes back to the UK, but he assured me he was coming back. I felt quite sad, thinking he was paying me off for the times I spent with him. He flew back and the communication didn’t end. We had our fights and we got over them. The communication wasn’t just one-sided, there was effort from his end too. I found myself counting down to when next I would see him, even though there hadn’t really been any form of intimacy between us. He came back again and this time he stayed longer. He stayed for like 7 weeks before he flew back. Those weeks were the best time of my life in 2025.
I was with him almost all the time, at least 4 days in a week. I met his friends and family, cooked for him, went out with him, watched movies together, watched him study, practically did everything a girlfriend would do for her man, except that our relationship wasn’t defined. I found myself counting down to the day he would ask me to be his girlfriend, but that never happened. I found myself wanting more, wanting clarity, till the day I summoned courage and told him I loved him and he couldn’t say the same. I was sad and heartbroken, but I didn’t push further. I kept my cool, thinking he would eventually see me. I was head over heels in love with this man and still am. He’s just the perfect guy for me, honestly, I’m just so attracted to him. He tells me almost everything and I do the same. He eventually flew back on the 1st of October. My phone got stolen about 5 days after he left. I found a way to keep in touch and he got me a new phone, which he sent through his dad. I went to the house and got the phone from his dad, who in turn got me gifts and chocolates and gave me a huge sum of money too.
About 2 weeks later, we had a conversation and I needed to know where I stand in his life. His response broke my heart and made me tear up. He said he wasn’t emotionally ready and prepared to be in a romantic relationship, that he is traumatised from his past relationship because the girl was abu$ive and threw him out. It messed with his sanity at that point. I suggested therapy and he said he was going to do something about it. He said we could be friends, but he can’t possibly give me what I want because he isn’t in that state of mind yet. We still talk very well after that conversation, but it’s not like it used to be. Everything is so weird now. He’s busy studying for a very important exam, and the exam is one of the hardest exams in the whole world. He barely has time for me and it’s so disheartening, although I understand how important the exam is to him, but I can’t help but crave his attention. Is there someone else? Doesn’t he like me at all? Am I overthinking everything? Still not over the feelings I had for him. I really want to cut ties with him but I couldn’t. At this point, I think I’m obsessed. What can I do to get back with him? I can’t afford to lose this guy. I need your advice, please.
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