I’m dating this guy who will be 36 soon, and I’m 27. We’ve been dating for a while, but he’s an old-timer. He’s always talking about marriage to me. I eventually got pregnant, and he begged me not to remove it because, as a first child, I need to get married before pregnancy. But since it had already happened, I didn’t want to remove it. Even his mom called me not to remove it. When we started talking, he was in Turkey, and he said he was going to relocate to my city. That’s why everything was working well. But now that the whole marriage process has started, he’s saying he can’t relocate. The funny thing is that he’s at his mother’s house. After the introduction, I followed him to his place, which is his mother’s place, and the mom came in two days later. He’s been the one helping to cook because I can’t stand for long. I’m only 3 months gone. Can you imagine his mother telling him not to do the cooking, that it’s not an excuse and that I’m supposed to be doing that as part of exercise, at 3 months o?
Me that was at my parents’ house, and my mom didn’t allow me do anything because she said she didn’t want me to stress myself. Truly, nobody can love you like your mother. Immediately he told me what his mom said, I packed my things and left the next day, and she told him that it’s obvious I’m not ready for marriage. This is someone that doesn’t do anything for me! The only reason I’m with this guy is because I don’t want to be a bad person who left him at his lowest, because this is someone that likes me very much, and I also like him. This is why some girls don’t want to marry men who still have their mothers heavily involved in their lives. Such wckedness. So me, with a 3-month pregnancy, should go and be fetching water from a well? I told him that if this is how it will be, I don’t want to get married anymore because what level of wckedness and control is this? When you tell men to use their money for useful things, they won’t. Because if he had a house, I’m sure this wouldn’t happen.
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