I have been in a relationship for 8 months with someone who lives outside the country. When he came home last year, we spent time together and built a genuine connection. We didn’t get physically involved, but the love felt real, and our communication has always been good. There’s one major issue, money. So he rarely supports me financially. Anytime I try to ask for help, it turns into an argument, and it often leads to tension between us. He constantly reassures me that he loves me, and we talk about our future together, promising marriage, which makes everything more confusing. I also work and earn a small income that covers my bills, so I’m not dependent on him, but I just want support from my partner.
We’ve even broken up once, all on this same issue, and he came back to start all over again, and now it’s confusing. However, I rarely ask him for money, and the highest he has ever given me is N20k. Mind you, he’s buoyant, and I can go weeks without asking him for money, and he won’t offer to give. Marriage to him means he can only provide then, not in a relationship, according to my own thought of him. There’s always tension whenever we talk about money, and it’s tiring explaining and not getting him to understand. Now I’m left thinking, can love really be enough when financial support becomes a constant problem? I’m also thinking of letting go since he’s not of any help in my life. Thank you.
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