I am in a relationship of five years. I share the same password with my man, so his phone is easily accessible by me and vice versa. I check his phone when we are together, either in his presence but mostly in his absence. Fast forward to a month ago, I noticed he was replying to a text on Snapchat, which caught my attention knowing fully well he does not text on Snapchat except the usual streak sending. Out of curiosity, I checked his phone later that day to find out there was this girl he was talking to. They just started talking because I saw that they exchanged pictures and all. It was suspicious being that they were talking on Snapchat, but I let it slide because it seemed as though nothing serious was going on, even though the chat was set to delete after 24 hours, meaning I could not see much. Normally, I would have called his attention to it, asking who is this and all that like I usually do, but I just decided to keep mute. Fast forward to two weeks later, we met again and I checked his phone. I saw that he still chats with this girl and figured his friend apparently linked them up. I was shocked. I played a little trick right there and the girl got to find out my boyfriend has a girlfriend.
She was upset and even unfriended him and complained to his friend who linked them both. My boyfriend was so uncomfortable the whole day, between trying to make sure I did not know something was wrong and trying to figure out what to do about the said lady. My boyfriend’s friend managed to talk the girl out of it and maybe convinced her into adding my boyfriend again. According to his chat with his friend that I saw, he was insulting the girl for unfriending him, saying he does not want to talk to her again and asking if she expects him to not have a woman. Then his friend talked him into texting her back and it continued. While knowing all these, I still kept mute. This is so unlike me because even girls that he spoke with once, I know how upset I get and how I warn him about them, but this time I just acted like I did not know anything. He knows I check his phone but never expected I would check his Snapchat. I was with him a few days ago, checked again and saw they still talk, but the few days we spent together he never sent her any text and she did not either, making me not have any reason to flare up and bring it up.
It is really weighing me down. I keep saying when I get back to my place I would bring it up and give a strict warning, but then I just end up not saying anything. I do not know if I am waiting for the right timing or looking for what would trigger my anger, but then I know something is going on between them both. PS, the girl stays in another state entirely from his due to schooling. My boyfriend thinks I do not know anything, whereas I know more than he thinks I do. What do you suggest I do, because I do not want things to get serious between them before I voice out. Help me guys.
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