Hello everyone. Will try make this short and straightforward. My younger sister needs my permission to have sex. We are 4 in our family, 3 boys and 1 girl. She’s the last born of the house and she’s 21 yrs old and in the university, 200L to 300 level now I think. Among all of us she’s closer to me the most, tells me about her school activities, friends etc. Last year when she came home for holiday, she came to me and said she want to tell me a secret but I should promise not to tell mum or anyone. I said okay. She processed and said I shouldn’t be angry with her that she has a boyfriend now. He’s a student etc. I just laughed, say okay. I didn’t take it as a big deal but I told her she should stay away from sex. You know that kind big brother advice, don’t get pregnant etc. We laughed it out and that was it. Still one day when she has gone back to school we were chatting and she said her boyfriend want it. “Want what?” I asked, and she wants me to be aware of what she’s about to do. Immediately I called her on phone, para her seriously with better warning not to try for now. To cut the long story short I said she shouldn’t do anything of such, at least till she’s 22 year old.
When she’s 22 I promise to support her decision she makes. Mind you, me don’t even knew she’s 21. I thought she’s 19 or 20 year old. Now she called me few days and gave me big brother billing. Next 2 days I sent her N20k. After that she called to say thank you and wanted to tell me something else. That she will be 22 by April and her boyfriend want to do it on her birthday, want me to know and approve it and be aware of it. Since then I have been avoiding my younger sister calls. When she want to talk about it I form busy or something came up. I can’t tell her do it and at the same time I am trying to keep my word as a senior brother. If only I knew then I would have said when she’s 25 years old then she can. But now I can’t go tell my brothers or anyone this what our younger sister want to do. She confided in me and have always supported her with her decision but in this case I just don’t know what to tell her. What made me so curious about all these is what if tomorrow it was my daughter who asked me this, what fatherly figure of advice will I give her. It just kind strange to me that I am thinking all these, just lost in my thought. Will be in the comments section, please be nice with your words.
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