I’m stuck in a relationship with my first love. Here is the story. There is this guy I got to know through a mutual friend, but for me it was love at first sight, and he is the first guy I fell in love with, my first love. Our friendship, relationship, and conversation ended without having enough memories or meeting for the second time. After some years, we reconnected and met for the second time, but something was off because I could sense he was in a relationship. After I left, things were cool, but all of a sudden he wasn’t communicating, and later he ghosted me. I felt it was because of his girlfriend, but I wouldn’t blame him because I didn’t ask if he was in a relationship or not; the excitement of getting back with my first love overwhelmed me. Somehow, he came back again last year, and we started talking. He told me about his girlfriend and how they ended things, so at the moment he said he was single. He asked me to be his girlfriend again and promised nothing of what happened before would repeat itself. I was single then, so we started from where I think we stopped, and the relationship was going smoothly except for slow communication because it’s a long-distance relationship.
It took us four to five months before I went to visit him. When I visited the first time, I didn’t notice anything because he wasn’t showing any sign of having a girlfriend or another person, but when I went the second time, I saw the things of the girlfriend he told me was now his ex at his place. I got to know she owned them because she added me on social media before I knew she was the girlfriend he lied about, and a few of the things I saw were what she posted. I confronted him; at first he lied, but later admitted it. I asked how come, and he said they got back together because he felt bored due to a change of environment, so they reconnected. I couldn’t place my head around it, so I let him do him. Now another girl surfaced, and this time the ex he lied about and this other person were trolling each other on social media, posting pictures and videos of him with them using different captions. I chatted him and confronted him, but he denied it all. He said the other person is not his girlfriend but a friend, and she was at his place; they went out together until the ex girlfriend he lied about saw the post, and that caused a serious argument between them.
This guy never introduced me to any of his friends because they all know the ex girlfriend he lied about. We have been together for nine months plus now, and the two times I went visiting it was basically house arrest because we didn’t go out, but he can go out with who he claims to be just a friend. I noticed ever since that drama between the two girls started, the ex he lied about, who happens to be the main girlfriend, cut him off, and he wasn’t himself. In fact, he stopped vibing with me but blamed it on the drama because he couldn’t concentrate. She deleted all their videos on her profile, and the other girl kept trolling. I told him I don’t want to be involved in this and that he should clear all his mess. Eventually, he sorted his issue with the main girlfriend and blocked the other girl. His videos came back on her page. Now my problem is that he keeps telling me our relationship is serious while everything is glaring right in my face. I am indecisive because he is someone I have always loved. I forgot to mention he told the ex girlfriend he lied about to block me, so I wonder what he might tell her. I don’t even know if I am the third wheel. Please, what should I do? Should I keep believing his words of assurance, or should I just let go of him?
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