It’s my first time posting here, and I’m just here to vent. I dated a girl for five years, and we just celebrated that milestone on January 5th. I’m currently enrolled in a part-time program at a university in Nigeria. In December 2024, I discovered that she was cheating on me. When I confronted her, she admitted it. Because of the love I have for her and the future I envisioned with her, I forgave her. I know I’m not perfect; I have my own flaws. To be clear, I’ve only been intimate with her. It’s not easy for me, but when I commit to someone, they can be assured of my loyalty. Fast forward to this year in January, I discussed how we could move forward in our relationship to prevent any mistakes in the future. We both agreed on this. I spoke to some of my friends about the situation, and they advised me to break up with her, warning that she might cheat again but would just be more careful this time. Deep down, I had my suspicions, but I didn’t expect she’d cheat on me again—with the same guy. I noticed changes in her behavior, her dressing style, and even her lingerie.
When I asked about it, she insisted it was all for me. I found that hard to believe, so I turned to prayer, seeking God’s help and guidance so I wouldn’t make the wrong decision. In February, during the Hallelujah Challenge, Pastor Jerry preached about letting go of what isn’t meant for us. I prayed specifically for God to remove anything not meant for my life within 24 hours. Surprisingly, on February 28th, I received a breakup text from her. At first, I was shocked because I never thought my prayer would be answered so quickly. Love can be complicated. I chased her after the breakup because I loved her more than I loved myself. However, there was no clarity or explanation for why she left, so I turned back to God for the truth. On March 5th, a friend made a social media post, and guess who she was with? The same guy she had claimed was just a friend. At first, I laughed, but then I felt sad knowing how selfless I had been and the forgiveness I offered her. I even gave our relationship another chance, but it seemed she was already gone. I’m just here to vent.
And to all the men who forgive infidelity, let me say this: you are not weak. To hell with that notion. I know she will read this, and to her, I wish the best with her rebound. I pray and hope my heart opens up to love deeply again. Some women lack emotional maturity and self-control. I also pray God sees the heart of all the real men out there in search of a real woman. You are not alone! (Never love a woman or anyone more than you love yourself)
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