I have a girl I have known since 100 level and she’s been a good friend. Along the line, we decided to give dating a chance between us and we only did that for about 3 months because we were always having issues over silly things (we could barely go 3 days without quarreling). So in a quest to save our friendship, we decided to stop dating and remain just friends, but we still lowkey did couple things together, even sex. The issue is that she has anger issues and gets angry over silly things. Me, on the other hand, I used to be a very very cool guy and even when she was misbehaving, I was able to calm her down and just be the water to her flame. But along the line, I started to also get angry easily and was even more hot-tempered than her. So now that we are both always getting angry easily, it is really affecting us as friends. I am a bit traditional due to the family I was born into for protection, so I took her name out to check in 3 different places. Two said we aren’t compatible, while the other said she’s good but needs “working” on so she can calm down.
Now, the thing is that the two people that said we aren’t compatible are very, very strong and they don’t say anything that doesn’t come to pass, while the one that said yes is also strong but not compared to the other two. The reason why they said I shouldn’t follow her is because she has anger issues, and money might be an issue in the future, and she will start using my sense. So basically, I am stuck between who to follow. I can’t belittle her because she’s really a nice person when not angry. She’s literally like my mother—always quick to anger but never neglects you to enter harm. If you enter harm, she’ll make a way out for me ASAP. She’s basically a mother, and I kid you not when I say she’s like my mom—both body shape, behavior, color, etc., and they act the same. They also told me she’s a water child (omo omi), and I honestly don’t have an issue with it because I am not a child traditionally and she knows that. Also, the only man that said yes to our union has once told me NEVER to marry any woman who isn’t my tribe, that it’s not in my destiny, and I will regret it greatly and might even end up six feet in the process.
And my girl isn’t my tribe, so it’s making me confused. She also told me today that her mom went out for her and me twice and was told that we are compatible and that I have her interest at heart—which I do honestly. But she said they told her that my mom and sister would cause an issue for us in the future and might bring a breakup in our marriage. My girl is against getting married without your mother-in-law’s blessings and support, so now she’s confused too because my mom is currently cool with her, so she’s afraid of what to do. She wants me to decide if we should fire down and still try dating again or back down. So please everyone, I’ll really appreciate positive replies because this is my first time and I am lost on what I want. Thanks in advance.
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