My boyfriend and I have been together for over three years. Recently, I found out that for the past three months, he had been asking other women to send him nude pictures—three different women on different social media platforms. I saw that he gives them attention, calls them, and they have shower time together via video call. This is someone that, when I say our communication between us is not so nice, he’ll tell me he sees nothing wrong with it. Most times, when we do talk on the phone, all he does is complain about work and his life. But then I saw that he has fun conversations with these women. It made me feel like I’m just his emotional outlet. To be honest, I don’t send him explicit pics or videos because it’s not really my thing. I don’t like it, and the idea of having my nudes out there is scary. I don’t know if that’s why he asked other people. Plus, I just didn’t think he’s that kind of person because he has been really transparent and faithful in our three years of dating. I’m just wondering what would’ve happened if I didn’t see the chats on his phone.
He says he would’ve never seen them physically, but na from clap dance dey start. He says he never physically cheated, but emotionally, it feels just as bad. He apologized, blocked the women, and has been making efforts to show he’s serious about rebuilding trust. I told him to block all the women he follows on Instagram and he did. He’s even gone as far as giving me access to his devices and making grand promises. Despite all this, I can’t shake off the hurt and insecurity. I asked for space and he’s been patient. I also found out he hadn’t been honest about his finances, which makes me wonder if there are more things he’s not telling me. He wants to fix things, and I do love him, but I don’t know if I can truly move past this. Can a relationship recover from emotional cheating? Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do I know if he’s genuinely changed or just afraid of losing me?
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