Please, there is this guy I started dating in 2022. I was in year 2 in the uni, but he is the type that doesn’t have time physically, which he told me is why his ex left, and I advised him to change. I didn’t worry too much because we were both very young then, just 20. He messaged always; we never went a whole day without talking. And if I’m not online, he calls, but physically, no attention at all. We could go 5 months without seeing each other, and we stay so close, like a 10-minute walk, but he is very caring. He gives me what he can afford and always carries me in his plans. But he said he doesn’t really want me coming around because his roomie is into laundry and the idea of washing or ironing, and they stay in a self-con, which I accepted. But at times, I always wished we could spend time together. Along the line, this guy cheated on me and told me immediately, without me finding out, which I forgave because he told me. After 1 year together, I lost my virginity to him, which was February 2023, and until September that year, he didn’t touch me again, which I didn’t take offensively because I knew there was a reason. Fast forward to when he graduated (one year ahead of me), he promised to get an apartment.
I advised him to get one alone, even if it’s a self-con, which he accepted. Along the line, he said he wanted a 2-bedroom flat with his brother, though I advised him again to get it alone because he is the type that doesn’t like offending people. I didn’t want a situation where I’d come, and he would say I shouldn’t come because of this and that, but he said that’s what he wanted, and I accepted. He moved from school in November 2023, and that was the last time we saw. He moved back to his parents’ house because he didn’t know where they would post him for service. Fast forward to May 2024, he started his service and decided to get an apartment around December. He now told me his brother’s girlfriend is pregnant, and he and his brother are still getting the apartment together. But I wasn’t comfortable with him staying with a couple. If I come, the lady might feel somehow, and he’ll tell me not to come again. But he doesn’t have another girl, because I’ve done my findings, though I still don’t fully trust people. And he really loves me, which I do too. But at that point, I just had to move on because I was fed up.
I told him, and we both went our separate ways. I try to act as if I don’t miss him, but deep down, I really do. I spoke to him this year January, just a compliment, but I was thinking of going back or moving on. Not until he got a car and some other things last week. Though we don’t talk again, my friend told me, and I checked his status and wished him well. We spoke, he asked about family and when I’m going for service. After that, we haven’t talked again. I wish to go back to him, but it might be because I know he hit some money. Please, should I talk to him or just move on?
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