Good day, guys. I’m a 26-year-old lady. I am so tired. I am honestly, deeply exhausted. I am married to a man who does not care about me at all. Everything about him is nonchalant. His family always comes first, second, and third, while I, his own wife, come last. To make matters worse, he cheats on me constantly, even while I was pregnant, and some weeks after I gave birth, he cheated too. I found everything on his phone. It really hurt me, especially when I had just put to bed. It’s been 10 months, but it still bothers me every day. I do pretend to him as if everything is fine, but deep down, I hate him tf. On top of that, he is a total manipulator. Whenever he does something wrong, he twists the story so badly that I end up feeling like the bad person. He makes me feel like I’m crazy just for asking for basic respect. And my own mother is no help at all. She is a total “pick-me.” Whenever I cry to her, she just tells me to endure it. She looks me in the face and says, “That’s how men are. All men cheat.” Why should I have to suffer and stay in a marriage like this?
The truth is, I wish I could just pack my things and move out today. But ever since I relocated to Lagos, I haven’t been able to get a job. I have a 10-month-old daughter that I can never abandon, and the funniest and saddest part is that he knows I don’t have money. He knows I am stuck, and that is exactly why he treats me like trash. Right now, I don’t have a single dime to my name to move away or start over with. I’m a health practitioner, but to see a job close to me here in Lagos is a lot. I stay in Ikorodu, but the jobs I always get are either in Gbagada or Ikeja, plus the salaries are always N90k–N150k. And with the situation in this country, I’ll even spend everything on transportation. I can’t just say I regret marrying him, but I’m always grateful for my daughter because I’m the only child, and the feeling of having my own daughter, I can’t just explain it. It gives me joy, but I need to work and give her the best life she needs. I really need to start earning, even if it’s to start POS or selling food from home (I’m a good cook). Please.
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