Hi guys, I am a 25-year-old married woman. I got married earlier this year, and my husband is also 27 years old. He stays in Canada and has started arranging my papers so we can start staying together. We met on Instagram and dated for a few years before settling down. My husband will be coming to Nigeria very soon, and he is insisting we have to take an oath so we will not cheat or divorce each other. He also said we will both swear that we have not slept with another person ever since the last time we were intimate. I have been faithful to him ever since we started dating, so that is not what I am really concerned about. The thing is, he has cheated on me. The first time we saw each other physically was in 2023 when he came to Nigeria. He was involved with another girl then before asking me to come over to see him. I found out months later after he had gone back to Canada. In his defence, he said he was not really serious about our relationship then. So now he wants us to take an oath and swear that ever since the last time we were together, we have both not been with another person.
Note, the last time we saw each other was in 2023, and he was with the girl before asking me to come over, and did not get involved with anyone after me since then. So he wants us to swear based on that timeline, excluding when he cheated, which does not feel fair to me. I also caught him talking to another girl some months back, but he claimed nothing happened because she is in Nigeria and they never met. Please, I really need your advice. Should I take the oath with him so we would not divorce or cheat on each other in the future, and should I go along with the swearing to make him believe I have never cheated on him? I am not a fetish person, I do not like anything like that. Please, I really need advice. I will be in the comments section.
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