I started dating my girl a while ago. We met in mid-2024. Initially, when we started, we used to have a lot of arguments in respect to her ex. She keeps in contact with him, and he always comes to check on her. She was in uni all along, and we broke up afterwards. We picked things up from there again in mid-2025, and things have been okay until earlier this year, the 3rd, I think. She came to my place to stay for some days. On the very first night, while she thought I was deep in sleep, but on the contrary, I was awake, I heard her call her ex for 2 hours straight. I didn’t say anything because if I complained, she’d call me a narcissist, which isn’t her first time saying so. She did the same the second night. I left my phone on record, left her in the room, and went to the next room. I came back an hour later and heard the voice notes where she told him she gets irritated with the guys she’s been meeting recently. Once I was done listening, I sent her the voice note. She knelt down, wept, and begged that she didn’t mean it. I forgave her, but my instinct doesn’t lie.
She’s back again, and I took the time to go through her phone. She’s not only been telling her ex she’s single, she’s been telling every other guy. She only tells the ugly ones she’s in a relationship. She’s been sharing view-once messages with her ex. The content, I can’t judge, but it was persistent from both ends. I need advice on what to do, even though I’ve planned mine already. It won’t hurt to hear from your intelligent followers. I have a very unstable BP at the moment, and I have constant palpitations. I lost my kin recently, and it’s eating me deeply. The whole situation makes my health even more unstable. I plan to stay till I get a new relationship because breaking up will hurt me more than staying. We planned on getting engaged later this year, and she’s met my family already. I don’t care how many months get wasted from her end. I’ll keep it real like nothing ever happened, I’ll get a partner, and I’ll let her know only when I’m stable health-wise or ready to marry. I’m not wicked, but I have to choose myself first.
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