I don’t know if I’m overreacting, but I know I’m not entitled. I’m currently dating an older man who is very well-to-do, but I find that I keep spending more. I had an accident, so my car has been in and out of the mechanic. I’ve never asked him for money, and he doesn’t give either. I use taxis when going to visit, so I keep spending a lot of money on taxis. He eats mostly only seafood. You know how expensive they can be. I’ve cooked a couple of times with my money, which really isn’t a problem. The one that pissed me off was the day he randomly called that I should make seafood okra for him. It was a Sunday, and he said he was going to refund me. I had to go get things, then cook and take it to him. I didn’t get any refund, not even a word about it. All I got was a thank you after he said what I cooked didn’t look like the picture he sent to me. I told him I was never going to cook for him again, and I’ve kept my words. The other time, I got someone to fix his bed that had issues before I even knew him. It cost me about N100k. This man didn’t even ask how it was fixed or how I paid. He just acted like nothing happened and I let it go too.
I’m not one who likes to go to restaurants or really hang out, so we’re mostly indoors. So it’s not like he spends heavily on outings or anything. The last time he was in Canada, he said he got me a perfume. I’ve yet to see the perfume because he said his bag wasn’t sent. When I asked, he said he’d get me one from a store here. He hasn’t gotten it, and I haven’t asked again either, because why should I? Everything just has to be about him. I’m not heard or seen. I keep being the listening ear and shoulder to lean on, yet there’s really nothing to show for it. We’ve been dating for about 4 months now. It’s like when I’m talking about something that concerns me, he zones out. To make matters worse, he just lost his brother, and he had a heart attack due to shock. So I literally have to be extra careful with him now because he’s in a very delicate stage. I feel unseen and would like to break up. I don’t know if I’m overreacting.
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