I came across a page on Instagram that posts questions you can ask your partner to understand each other better. One of the questions was what you do not like about your partner. I asked my partner and he told me what I do that he does not like. When it was his turn, I told him I do not like the way he disrespects me outside. His belief is that respect in marriage is about traditional gestures like kneeling or how you address your husband, but I explained that it is not just about that. He asked for an example that day, but I could not remember one at the time because I forget things easily since I gave birth. He does not call my parents, while I call his regularly. I even stopped calling his parents at some point, and they started complaining. My parents also complain about him, but I usually cover up for him. One day, while he was on a call with his parents and they complained again, he said I was not okay and that if I do not behave myself, he will send me out of his house.
He does not speak to me like that when we are alone, but he speaks to me badly in front of others and apologises later. I got angry but waited until he ended the call before confronting him. He still acted proud. Today, I used that situation as an example of what I do not like, and it turned into a serious argument. He said he is not the one feeding me, and I replied that I am the one cooking the food he eats. I also reminded him that he came to my father’s house to ask for my hand in marriage. The argument escalated and he threatened to beat me. I told him clearly that if he tries it again, I will leave his house for good. My question now is, did I ask for too much? Do women not deserve respect? Is it just to keep working and enduring? Please advise me, guys.
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