I got married to my husband last year, but before I got married, I was staying with my parents in Ibadan. I’m from Ibadan, and all my family members are in Ibadan, but because I wanted to change location, I went to school in another state. After I graduated, I told my dad that I did not want to come back to Ibadan, that I wanted to move to Lagos, and that is because I don’t want to get married and raise my own family in Ibadan. I wanted to change location entirely. So I moved to Lagos, around the Egbeda side. I was selling stuff online because I couldn’t find a good job. Fast forward to 2024, I met my husband through matchmaking, and after six months of dating, he opened a shop for me. But the reason why I’m saying all this is that, you know I said I left Ibadan because I don’t want to spend the rest of my life there and I don’t want to raise my children there. My husband is from Ibadan, but he was born and brought up in Lagos. He stays at an area in Ogun state with extremely bad roads. The shop he opened for me is also around that side, and the problem now is that there are no sales at all where I am.
We are planning on relocating because of the bad roads, and if we want to go out, we have to take a bike to the main junction before we can order a ride because rides can’t enter our side because of the road. That’s how bad it is, and because of that, we don’t go out; we only stay indoors. Now my husband is saying we should move to Ibadan, and I don’t want to go back to Ibadan. Note that all his family are in Lagos and some around where we are. Only his extended family are in Ibadan, and all my own family are in Ibadan, and I don’t want to go back there. But right now, I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to stay where we are because of the road, and I don’t want to go to Ibadan either. The thing is, to rent a house in Lagos or anywhere is not the problem, but we are planning to move our businesses and build a house in the same city. To buy land in Lagos is very expensive. We can actually rent a house in Lagos, but to buy land is the problem when half a plot is like N20 million plus, and it has already passed our budget. We cannot rent a house in Lagos, move our businesses, and still leave Lagos again after we’ve settled down.
So he’s planning to buy a land in Ibadan and start building it small-small because lands are not that expensive in Ibadan. That’s why he wants us to move to Ibadan pending the time we will finish our house. I don’t want to move to Ibadan, and he doesn’t want Ikorodu either because he said he doesn’t like wahala and they always fight in Ikorodu. So he said everything is on me and that I should choose what we will do. I need you guys to advise me because I don’t even know what to do now. I can’t stay where we are because of the road. I can’t go back to Ibadan because that’s where I was born and brought up, and I wanted to change location. Lagos is too expensive to build a house there, so what should we do?
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