I genuinely need honest opinions because I don’t know if I’m overreacting anymore. I’ve been in a relationship where I feel like I’m constantly questioning whether my feelings are valid. There are certain things my boyfriend does that hurt me, and whenever I try to communicate how I feel, somehow the conversation ends with me feeling like I’m the problem. For example, I feel like he gives other people more attention than he gives me. There are times when I call him and he makes excuses, but he can spend hours with his friends. Sometimes he’ll go out and stay out for hours without properly communicating with me, and I end up feeling unimportant and anxious. The part that hurts me the most is that when I finally speak up about these things, instead of feeling heard, I’m sometimes told that I’m overthinking, being too much, or making an issue out of things. It has gotten to the point where I question myself before even bringing up something that hurts me because I’m scared of how the conversation will go. I know I’m not perfect either.
I know I can be emotional, and I’m willing to admit when I’ve handled something badly. But I also don’t think wanting communication, reassurance, consideration, and quality time from your partner is asking for too much. Recently, things got to a point where he basically made me feel like my complaints were enough reason for him not to want the relationship anymore. That really broke me because I wasn’t complaining because I wanted to fight with him. I was complaining because I was hurt and wanted my partner to understand me. I’m honestly confused now. Am I genuinely asking for too much? Am I being clingy and unreasonable, or are these normal things to expect from someone you’re in a relationship with? Please be honest with me, even if I’m the one in the wrong. I don’t want people to simply tell me I’m right. I want genuine opinions on whether I’m handling this relationship badly or whether I’m accepting things I shouldn’t be accepting.
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