I met my girlfriend last year. At that time, she was in a relationship, but it was obvious she liked me too. We kept on as just friends. About two months into this year, she told me they broke up. I was sad for her genuinely and happy for me genuinely too. We agreed to give her time to heal. Three weeks ago, we started dating officially, and I told her my plan to marry her in about a year. We were together over the weekend, and she screamed while on her phone and started crying.
After much pestering, she reluctantly told me she was shocked and hurt by what her ex posted on his stories. She had bought him an expensive item he wanted while they were dating. It was so expensive that she had never spent much money on herself. She said seeing him post that he needed that item again meant he either gave it out or sold it and returned the money to her because he sent her some money after the breakup to support her business.
I comforted her and asked if she wanted to speak with him to get closure because it seemed like she had not healed or moved on completely, and she said that was why she didn’t want to tell me why she screamed. So I said I didn’t want to talk about it anymore and kept quiet. She rose from beside me and went inside crying really loudly. I felt sorry for her and went in to comfort her. I understand ladies can be quite irrationally emotional about some things, but I’ve not been able to get this off my mind.
It seems to me like she’s still stuck with him. Or perhaps if this guy comes back, she may just return to him. I like her a lot, but I don’t want to fight for a woman to be with me by force if she has her heart somewhere else. I want her to be with me because I’m her first choice, not a backup plan. I need help processing this situation. Kindly share your thoughts, ladies.
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