I have been reading people’s stories and didn’t think the day would come when I would eventually share mine. I met this guy around February on a dating site, and his face looked familiar. We chatted, and he confirmed he knew me from an educational platform. After a month of talking, we went on a date, and things were going well between us. He was nice and even introduced me to his family at an event. The sister, a lovely lady, was even calling me sister-in-law. One Saturday, he said he was feeling down. I asked him what happened because I noticed his vibe lately wasn’t right, and I couldn’t figure out why. He said it was something about work, and I encouraged him that everything would be fine, and to take it easy and have faith. I even promised to pray about it for him. I asked if I should visit; he said I shouldn’t worry, he needed to be alone.
That night, he sent me a message that he missed me and I should come over the next day. I did in the evening, and we spent time together. I even passed by his place to work because he prefers it that way. On Wednesday, I sent him a love message about how I feel about him, and he responded with “Thank you, babe,” with a smile and kiss emoji. On Friday, I wanted to go see my boyfriend after work, so I sent him a message and said, “Babe, can I come over?” He said I didn’t have to ask like that, but his sister was around and all. So, I said no problem and left the office. I got home and sent him a message; he didn’t respond for two hours. When he did, he just said, “Babe, what’s wrong?” I didn’t respond because I was upset. The next day around midday, I responded and told him I was upset. He said he understood and was sorry.
We talked about spending time together the next day after church. He came over, and I offered to make him a meal, but he said he would take it home instead as he was already full. He laid down on the couch as we watched a movie, and he fell asleep. When he woke up, he said he felt uncomfortable because the living room was hot, so I opened the windows and even asked him to take off his shirt. He said there was no need. After a few minutes, he got up and said, “Babe, we need to talk, and it’s not something good.” He began to smile, so I started smiling as well. I wasn’t expecting the bombshell he was about to drop. The next thing he said was, “Babe, I know that you love me so much, and I can’t deny that. Remember on Saturday when I told you I wasn’t feeling too good, a lot had been bothering me, including this.” Then he said, “I don’t think that I can love you enough.
I wanted to do this last weekend, but I didn’t know how. On Wednesday, when I saw your message, I just couldn’t.” I asked, “What is the problem? Are you breaking up?” He said, “Yeah, I am sorry.” In that moment, I buried my face in my hands and started to think about everything that happened between us and couldn’t find what went wrong. I asked, “Did I do anything wrong? Are you seeing someone else?” He said, “It’s not you, trust me. It’s just me, and I am not seeing anyone and don’t plan to as well.” Then I said OKAY. I started to shed some tears, and he said he wanted to leave. I walked him to the door, hugged him, and cried even more. I asked him, “Why are you doing this?” All he said was that he was sorry. He left and sent me a message when he got home, saying he was sorry about how it ended and that he was home. The next day, I tried to probe further, hoping he would open up, but it was futile.
He said it was just the way it was. So, I decided to let him be. Now, he has some of his things here, and I have some of my stuff at his place too. I need to send him his things and get mine back. How do I go about it? Do you guys think there is more to this that he is not saying? What could have happened? This same guy told me he loved me. So, what went wrong? We had never had a fight before. I remember before we started dating, he told me about a lady he liked, but because of religious biases, he had to end things with her. I am just so confused and heartbroken.
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