I want to seek your guys’ opinion if I’m doing the right thing because, as much as I really hate to hurt someone’s emotions, I hate someone to hurt me too. Now, this is the whole story: I’m 21, but I started dating in 2019. Please don’t judge me ejoor. I wrote my WAEC in that same 2019, and I gained admission in 2021. My life was going well with my boyfriend, even though he’s been overprotective. Then one time, we had an issue, and he didn’t text me for days, let’s say 3 days sha. And there’s this guy in my school asking me out and disturbing me back to back. Note: as of then, he’s not as financially stable as my boyfriend. But I don’t know why I gave him the audience to talk to me. One thing led to another, we had sex, and I felt too guilty to keep it a secret. Then, as of 2021, I had to tell my boyfriend I cheated, and I apologized. He forgave me then, but since then, we are always fighting non-stop, and he usually calls me names.
Then I thought of breaking up with my boyfriend to continue with that other guy. I’m not a materialistic person because my ex always provides for me without me asking, so I broke up with my ex on 21 November and started dating the guy I had sex with officially since 2021. And I know he’s the firstborn. I don’t ask for money because my family is comfortable too. This guy gave me anything I asked for from November till June. Since June 2022 till date, it’s been a struggle to collect a penny from him, not that he doesn’t have oh, but because his background is poor, and he’s trying to establish his parents and family. He’s 27 as of 2023. Last year, in May, I started dating someone else, but I didn’t break up with my current boyfriend because I believed we could make a good family, and I didn’t want to pressure him for money. And the purpose of that second boyfriend was just to get money, that’s all. Did I mention earlier that I signed out in 2022 because I went to Polytechnic? That guy didn’t spend a penny on buying any stuff for me during my sign-out.
I understood though. His sex drive is so high. So, the other guy I started dating in 2023 has a baby mama, and he assured me not to worry. But honestly, this guy has been the best so far right from enough attention, he listens to me always, he encourages me, he even registered me to learn nails and got my equipment for me, even in his broke days, he usually sends N5k to me weekly. My other boyfriend didn’t give me money, and he didn’t want me to collect from another guy. During my birthday in June last year, the guy I met in May took me out on a date. My other bf started calling my phone because we are not in the same state. I didn’t pick. Guys, would you believe this guy hacked my Snapchat and saw all the snaps I was doing to prove that I was outside with another guy? That one passed; I apologized because I wanted a serious relationship with him because sincerely I didn’t ask him for any money at all,
and he didn’t use to give me, which I never complain about. December 2023, I went to his house to visit. I slept off, and he went through my phone and saw my chat with that other guy. He got mad and broke up, but I apologized and promised to block that other guy on every platform, which I did except WhatsApp. Fast forward to this year, he still hasn’t given me any money, and school stress, and I have my personal wants too. But that other guy has never for once doubted me or stopped giving me money. So, I called my boyfriend and begged him that if I offended him, he should forgive me and take care of me as his girlfriend because I was ranting that I needed money to restock and get some equipment for work. He didn’t offer to help. That same week, he bought a game worth N450k. Now, in March, they stole my phone, and I had no means to get to him.
I told him I needed a phone. Note: the other guy with the baby mama, when I told him they stole my phone, he quickly got me a new one, but I didn’t tell the other guy that I got a phone already. When I started pressuring him about getting a phone, he then decided to sell the game he bought, and he gave me N250k, which I told him I would add my money to get my desired phone, and he agreed. Just for me to wake up last week, this guy always hacked my TikTok and my old Snapchat, even though he was trying to log in to the new Snapchat but didn’t gain access, all this without my knowledge. I forgot to say my Gmail is on his phone, and I think he’s seeing all my transactions and how the other guy has been sending money. Since then, I’ve been trying to reach him, but he has blocked me everywhere, and my Gmail is still with him. Please, did I h#rt him? Did I do something wrong?
All I wanted was for him to build himself without me collecting a penny from him while I used other men’s money to take care of myself too. Am I wrong? Please don’t insult me; you can all correct me with love. Please, I’m sad, and I’ve been thinking lately that what if this guy with the baby mama settles with his baby mama? What will be my fate, even though he didn’t and has never mentioned them coming back together? But what if? And to see relationships hard now, to start afresh with another guy is not on my list right now. Should I just focus on this guy with the baby mama and let the other one go because I don’t even know what to do? I’m so confused.
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