I am in my late 20s and have a good business that is doing well. Got university admission late after waiting for 5 years, but I was working at that time. This is my 6th year in uni after COVID and strikes, almost done though. I haven’t gotten to where I really want to get in life, but I believe everything is a process and God is leading me right and lifting me up gradually. I have a boyfriend. I love him quite alright, and he loves me too. He does everything for me when I need it, if it’s within his power and capability. He is very supportive and good to me. He’s in his mid-30s. We have been together for almost 5 years now. He talks about making it, like making it fully, and I support him always and help out every way I can. He has cheated on me once in the middle of the relationship. I forgave him, but it was hard to let go because I don’t forget things at all. I remind him of it sometimes because he didn’t give me a genuine reason why he did it.
He just said it was once and they never meant anything to him. But we settled it and moved on. I am not innocent either, but I try always to be loyal in the relationship. But the problem is marriage. He does tell me, after getting a house, a car, and this and that, then we will now do the next thing. He will come and carry me away from my parents, always saying it with joy and happiness. But anytime he tells me this, I do think, okay, in the next one year, we will tie the knot and all will be good. But I spoke with him recently, and he is planning for a family but is not ready to have a family. He works a lot to achieve his dreams, but I don’t think he is ready to marry me anytime soon. I feel really down, sad, and unhappy about this that I almost cried yesterday. He has land, he owns a small house, he has a car. I know that enough doesn’t give the motive to go ahead and start a family, but the way he says it,
like he wants to acquire all before he settles down, I am scared, I am crying, I am sad. I don’t want to be far away from him anymore. I don’t want to give birth at 30 plus. I don’t want to still be nursing a child at age 50. I don’t really know the reason I am sad about this, but I want to marry and have children in one to two years from now, but I don’t think that is going to happen because of his ambition. I am not trying to rush him. I don’t want to ever mention it to him because I don’t like bothering people with what I want, because I see all this is because of what I want. His mum and dad know me, and they have already asked him. My mum has stylishly asked him, but the important words I got from the response is he is not ready! What if I am ready? I love him. I truly love him with all my heart, and I am not planning on leaving him or talking about it to him or anyone. So, I decided to pour my mind out here. Maybe I will be relieved a bit. I will just keep it dating, till God leads us right. Thank you.
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