Everyone is happy, but I’ve been really sad today. This 4-month relationship had been everything I prayed for, but its shortcomings are breathtaking. Firstly, he body-shames me at every given opportunity, saying that I’m fatter than my age and all. I didn’t mind; I communicated, and he adjusted. But another thing is that if my boyfriend wants to close an ordinary fridge and we’re on call, no matter how serious whatever I’m saying is, he would ask to call me back, which he never did. It kept going on and on, and I spoke up and vented because apart from taking care of my bills, all he does is body shame, gaslight, and act bossy. He feels superior that I can joke with my boyfriend, telling him, “You are mad” or “Baby, you are a goat.” This is someone I’m older than. I never mind too, but whenever we’re talking, he will always make mention of my father. I wouldn’t talk, but I just feel somehow that I can’t play with you or talk freely, but you will always refer me to my father whenever he’s talking. So this last one he did, he’s the type to set boundaries to the extent that I must notify him before I call him, and even with the notice, he would still decline and give an excuse. So this particular day, I asked if I could call; he said he wanted to stroll out, that I shouldn’t. I got very angry because it’s not like you’re already on your way, and more to it, we can’t spend more than 3 minutes on the phone. Anytime we’re talking, he’s always yawning, until I’ll just tell him, “Oya, go and sleep.”
I sha vexed and said that if he did not love me, he should let me know and stop acting like I was forcing the relationship. Only for him to reply that do I have any other important thing to say or he should leave me on read. Then I asked him to go ahead, that’s how he left. Later, he called because I was still angry; I didn’t pick up, and after that, he never texted or called anymore. What pained me most is that 2 days after the argument was my NYSC POP, and he didn’t congratulate me. Like I felt so pained and bitter, like WTF. So we stopped talking, and my phone got faulty. So before we stopped talking, he promised to support me whenever I wanted to change the phone because he was the one who made the phone develop the fault. So I entered his DM to tell him about the phone. That’s how he asked me who I am, that I’m capping rubbish in his DM. Omo, I felt pained and I insulted and cursed him. But I still love him so much. I had the money to repair my phone; I just entered his DM maybe we can patch things up. But he really got me upset. Do I beg him or should I just let go of the relationship? But I really love him, and it’s not because of what he’s doing because I have well-to-do parents and also run a well-doing brand. Before you insult me, please put yourself in my shoes.
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