I’m here to share my little experience with you guys. I have a girlfriend; we’ve been together for close to three years. Our relationship was so sweet until I cheated on her, and everything about her changed. Our relationship became somehow; the girl that would post me, do a video of us together, and post her pictures tagging my name, stopped showing all this love. We had lots of fights; I flirted with girls, and I did lots of things that I think damaged her. I was her first in everything, so I guess I damaged the sweet girl she was, and suddenly everything was full of fights. Our communication is always down; we can’t prove a point to each other without fighting. Everything was so hard about her. I go to my friends to talk to them, and they all say all sorts of things and make me feel like I was right. They supported everything I did, and seeing the way my friends made me feel like I had no fault, I felt I was right.
I wanted things from her; I wanted her to act right, and be submissive, but I was not giving her what she wanted. That was where the mistake was. I was unwilling to love my woman the way she wanted, so she could be submissive and do what I wanted. Everything I did for her was monetary things. We had big issues that led to our breakup; she stood on it and refused to come back. Instead of me fighting for us, I listened to my friends who said I did nothing wrong, and I acted as if I didn’t care if she came back to me or not, which resulted in my woman thinking I didn’t really love her. I got into another relationship to make myself happy; I wouldn’t check on her, wouldn’t do anything. To me, I was right. I was waiting for her to come back and beg so we could be together. I was living my life and acting as if I didn’t care. I left her for two months in another relationship that was going smoothly.
Then, one day I decided to talk to a friend about us because a part of me still loved her. This new friend made me realize all my wrongs, how my friends who have never been in a committed relationship pushed me, that I was feeling too pompous to beg my woman. I had a new relationship that was going smoothly, but why was it going smoothly? Because we were still talking, new to each other, and didn’t know any flaws, the butterflies and everything were still there. Because of that, I wanted to let go of the woman I loved because I believed I was perfect and forgot it took two of us to cause the problem going on. I sat down to think and realized in that space of three months, I didn’t really achieve anything, I was just there. Thanks to that friend who adviced me, I went back to her, and begged her to let us come back. We started afresh; we started the right way from the beginning. We discussed our love languages and what we don’t like,
and since then it’s been blissful. The butterflies and all came back as if we were just starting a new relationship. I taught her to be the woman I wanted, and she did the same to me. So, I’m just here to tell you that relationship you’re planning on leaving because you guys got tired of each other, there’s no spark, no love, it’s just a phase. If you guys can overcome it, then it will be blissful for life. There’s nothing outside, just body counts and infections. The new spark and butterflies will go in no time when the flaws are visible, just my advice and what happened to me. I went back to my woman.
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