For context, he is from Edo State but currently lives mainly in another state due to his business. He’s financially well-off, was previously married, is now divorced, and has a son. At the beginning of the relationship, he communicated almost 24/7, was attentive, and often got jealous. However, things gradually changed. Communication reduced, affection became inconsistent, and I started feeling like I was the only one making an effort. He’s quite s€xually driven, and sometimes I feel physical intimacy is what he prioritises most. There are no planned dates or thoughtful gestures. I’ve asked for assistance on several occasions, but he has often declined. Whenever issues arise, apologies are rare. He tends to act as though nothing happened and expects us to move on without addressing the situation. I also sometimes feel my concerns are turned around on me whenever I try to express how I feel. Last month, he visited and stayed for about two weeks but made little or no effort to see me.
Yesterday, he came around again and wanted us to meet. I visited him, but things were uncomfortable. He expected me to initiate affection, while I equally wanted to feel wanted and appreciated. We had several arguments, and when things eventually became physical, I declined s€x because I wasn’t comfortable. There was no apology, reassurance, or attempt to resolve the disagreement. I eventually booked a ride and left. We barely spoke, and he made no attempt to stop me or ask me to stay. I’ve been feeling emotionally alone in this relationship for quite some time, and I’m beginning to question whether there’s anything meaningful left to work on. I’d appreciate honest opinions. Am I expecting too much by wanting consistency, affection, consideration, and intentionality? Should I have another conversation with him, or should I accept the situation for what it is and move on?
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