Relationships these days are something else. Sometimes I look around and see people in relationships and see that this our generation is fucked. Just two people, one that’s horny and one that wants money. Relationships these days just be like ashawo work but with one customer. Sometimes I see my gender’s content online, and I just shake my head. All these girls just want material things. And I can’t even blame them. I’ll tell you for a fact, go do your own research too. This all started with men. They know they don’t want to have anything serious to do with you, but dem go sweet-talk you till you fall in love, then easy access to knack you, then leave you. I swear it all started like this. These girls will be feeling heartbroken. It’s not once or twice. I’ve asked a lot of girls, and they said they’d rather a man first spend on them to an extent before they open their legs because, at the end of the day, if na just knack he come for, they won’t feel the heartbreak like that because they also know say he spend.
I’ve also seen a lot of men post that after they sleep with a girl once, they lose interest. Onto the next. My question is, you men know you just want s€x, so why, instead of going to people you’d pay and do it with no strings attached, do you just look for one innocent girl, deceive her, chop and run? And no, women don’t fall in love because of nacks. This has been a debate where men say after you sleep with women, they start falling in love. That’s a lie. Why ashawo dem no dey fall in love with their customers? It’s just that you men deceive these women. Some will even take years to get it. Whine her, tell her sweet things, act like you care about her, call her for hours, always be quick to reply to her messages, send her sweet texts and all. This is the issue, not the s€x. It’s because you’ve deceived her to this point that’s why she gave it up so easily for you. And what will you now do? Some ghost, while some start taking time to reply or start acting nonchalant towards her after the s€x, after months of whining and deceiving these women.
At the end of the day, I’ve talked to most women, and their reply is still the same. Once they know say dem don chop you, if you ghost, e no go pain them. Me personally, I don’t even know how to ask men for shit, and no man has ever done anything for me. In my two relationships, I even bought these men things because I like to hustle as a woman and don’t like depending on anyone. So because you don’t ask, they feel like you’re a rich woman and don’t do anything for you! And don’t come here and say na the men wey you dey meet now. That’s a big lie. As I see say dem no reciprocate, I stop. Make e just be say na s€x, because women too need s€x. And one thing I promised myself is never to go into prostitution or s€x for money, but if a man does it for you willingly, then that’s okay. These men just saw me as free s€x. Never did anything for me. Sometimes sef, na me dey use transport to go get f*cked. At a point, I got tired because, this is not an excuse, but I got a fat ass, so I know men wey don offer me better cash to sleep with me.
Because people like me, there must be a connection before I sleep with you. So these men, because they tried and e no work, they tried to use money. I don’t do that. If I decide to start sleeping for money, I swear by next year I go buy car. On my life, no doubt. But the funny thing now is I’m now knowing how to ask, and I notice that sometimes, if dem don dey toast me without doing anything, I go ask, and funny enough, they would give. So men don’t appreciate women that don’t ask. If you don’t ask, you won’t get anything! Relationships are supposed to be with two people who have the same alignment, not one trying to f*ck. I’ve never met a man in my life who doesn’t want to f*ck. Some, you meet them today, they’re already demanding s€x instantly. If you as a man dey our shoes, how would you feel? Don’t come and say some women too ask men for money on the first date. What about the ones that don’t, and you only just saw them as s€x instruments? Trust me, I know there are a few useless girls, but no girl will just ask you for anything without you already giving her a hint that you want to f*ck.
At the end of the day, I’ve stayed away from men. I haven’t had s€x for more than one year now because, as a girl with a fat a$s, all men want to do is have s€x, and me, I’m a girl of principle. I don’t want to be sleeping around. Men irrit8te me. If I don’t have feelings for you, I can’t be open to sleeping with you. I go just dry. And I also don’t want anyone to use me just as a s€x instrument like those two guys without doing anything meaningful for me. Like I said, it goes both ways, but I’m done being the first to do. And it still hurts me, though. Even after doing for them, I even gifted them on their birthdays, but what do I get on mine? Sometimes sef, almost all the gifts I’ve ever gotten, I bought them myself. Even both female friends and men, they feel if you don’t ask or are always coming through for them, it means you’re one big millionaire, and they won’t do anything for you. Nobody has ever put effort into me the way I have. I bought one guy friend who has been asking me out a birthday gift, and he promised to do the same for me, lol. My birthday came, nothing.
He just wished me a happy birthday. This is a guy who even told me no girl has ever gifted him, I’m the first. My own came, but I’m never important. I had to remind him before he sent me some cash. Imagine, I put effort into buying you a gift worth over N100k. Mine came, you just wished me. I had to remind him of his promise two months later before baba sent me, is it N30k or N50k? So if I didn’t ask, I wouldn’t have gotten anything. I’m not even concerned about the amount. It means nothing. I can get whatever I want. No be today I don dey hear, “You’re the first girl to have ever done this for me,” from men who will still never do anything for you. In fact, if they see a way, they would want to start collecting from you or start letting you pay the bills. That’s why most times I don’t even blame these girls who ask, because they say a woman who doesn’t ask for anything deserves everything. But go ask those women if they ever got anything, and you’d be shocked they left with nothing. I’m not using my money to prove anything to anybody again.
If you no do for me, I’m not also doing for you. And the way they’ve turned relationships now, ehn, I’m too scared to get in. I no wan be anybody’s oshofree again. That’s why I removed myself from the relationship market. All of una kuku fit una selves, but the way it’s going, it will be very hard for genuine people to find love sha.
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