Earlier this year, a friend of mine introduced me to a guy. At first, I was hesitant about getting to know him, but when we eventually met in person I warmed up to him. Despite the distance between us because we lived in different cities, he made a real effort to build a bond. He has given me valuable career advice, supported me financially when he could, and cheered me up during tough times. Although I will admit we do get into petty fights and do not speak to each other for a while, we always end up settling amicably and becoming even stronger. Over time, I started to feel like I had finally found my person. I’ve been celibate for a long time and with him, I finally felt like I was ready. We made so many plans to catch up since we were in different cities and of course I looked forward to meeting him again. Recently his job brought him to my city and of course we both linked up. He was so sweet, gentle, and kind. We laughed, discussed random and important things, and made future plans about meeting up in his own city. We ended the night having steamy sex which, for me, felt beautiful, intimate, and meaningful. I reported to work the next day and he saw me off to my Uber. He also checked in multiple times throughout the day and seemed genuinely caring, even while he continued his travel to another state for work. Now, the crazy part is that it’s been a couple of days and he hasn’t called, texted, or made any attempt to reach out, even though I’ve tried contacting him myself. I’m naturally an over-thinker and I’ve been replaying everything. I’m still trying to figure out what went wrong, but I’m at a loss. I feel hurt and confused. I care for this man, and having broken my long period of celibacy with someone I thought cared about me makes this even more painful. Am I wrong for feeling this way? I keep asking myself why? Like why be so kind, so thoughtful to me, just to suddenly be so unkind, distant, and unresponsive?
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