I’m a 29-year-old man, and I’ve been in a relationship since October 2020. It’s been the best relationship of my life, and we had serious plans to get married. In 2023, I hit a rough patch financially due to some poor decisions. I was completely broke and couldn’t support my partner the way I used to. Despite the hardship, she stayed with me, hoping I’d bounce back. But as time passed and things didn’t improve, she began to withdraw emotionally. Before all this, I made sure she was taken care of emotionally and financially. I was always faithful, never strayed, and stayed away from situations that could threaten our relationship. Eventually, she told me she felt deprived of fun, attention, and the lifestyle she was used to. While I was struggling to fix my life, she began talking to other men. I knew about it, but I was afraid to confront her too strongly and risk losing her. In February 2025, she traveled to Lagos to meet a man she said was a primary school classmate. Because I couldn’t afford to host her, she stayed at his place in Ikoyi.
She only told me after the trip was already planned. I was furious and tried to end things, but it was so hard emotionally. In the end, I let her go because she made it clear she would walk away if I didn’t. She spent 14 days with him; they had sex, he gave her the fun she said she missed, they went on several dates, he gave her money to shop and go out with her friends, and then she returned to the East. Despite that, we continued the relationship. Instead of getting mad at her, I blamed myself for not being in a better place financially and thought we could somehow move forward. Now, my situation has turned around. I’m financially stable, everything is falling into place, and I feel ready to give her the life she once had with me. She’s apologized and expressed genuine regret. She wants us to move in together again and rebuild. I know it may sound foolish to continue, let alone consider marriage, but I still love her deeply. At the same time, I can’t ignore what happened. I’m torn, and I want to make the best decision. I’d really appreciate hearing honest thoughts or advice.
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