I will be getting married in five months’ time or less, and I’m currently six months pregnant. The reason I’m not married yet is because I’m still dragging with my family to wait till I give birth, because I don’t feel strong enough to get married yet, but they are against it and say I must get married before giving birth. Ever since I got pregnant, I’ve been having dreams where my husband-to-be is cheating on me. It gets really bad that I wake up crying every time, and when he asks, I just lie about it because I don’t want it to look like I’m always accusing him. I don’t go through his phone, not because I don’t want to, but because I don’t know how to ask him to open his phone, but he knows all my passwords to all my phones. Since I got pregnant, he’s been acting fishy. Whenever he sees me, he turns off his phone or bends it to the side so I don’t see what he’s doing, but when I’m using mine, he can just take it from my hand and read messages—not like I have anything to hide.
I went through his new phone and saw screenshots of texts with different girls, and I checked the time; it was when he left home. Apparently, from the deleted pictures, he seems to have someone on the side that he sees at his friend’s place because that’s like his second house. I checked his bank transactions, and this morning he paid a hotel and he left saying he’s going to work, and I don’t know what to do. I don’t have friends, I don’t go out, I’m just alone, and I’m going crazy with these dreams. I feel like maybe it’s the pregnancy that’s making me see those things, but something tells me it’s not. I don’t want to get married before knowing the truth, but I don’t know how to approach the matter instead. I have the money to take care of my unborn child, and I also have properties. I think it’s better I’m a single mom than go into marriage with someone who cheats because my heart won’t be able to take it. I have given my all to him, and if things turn out to be true, I’m not sure I can survive it.
Also read: Toxic Relationship Palava