I’m in a dilemma right now. I’m 28 years old and finished my NYSC in 2023. During my service year in Lagos, I stayed with a friend who lived with her elder brother. Her brother is very attractive and respectful, but I never made my crush on him obvious because he didn’t seem to look at me in that way. One weekend, he took my friend and me out to a bar to just chill. We had a lot to eat and drink, and by the time we got home, we were all a bit tipsy. We ended up crashing in the living room on an inflated mattress. That night, I was feeling cold because of the AC. My friend had already gone into our room, so I cuddled up to him. At some point, I noticed he had a boner. I don’t know what came over me, but I started rubbing him. He didn’t say anything when he opened his eyes, so I kept going. As he got harder, I assumed he wanted it, so I climbed on top of him. I was probably two minutes in when he suddenly pushed me off and went inside his room. I felt so embarrassed. The next morning, I decided to talk to him about it, but when I brought it up, he coldly shut me down, saying, “Don’t get delusional because nothing happened.” I was hurt and even more embarrassed, but I kept my feelings to myself.
What confused me the most was how he carried on like nothing had happened. Fast forward to when I was rounding up my NYSC, he started dating a girl who would visit frequently. Six months into their relationship, he asked her to move in. That’s when things started changing in the house. He introduced new rules, like putting her in charge of the kitchen because she loves to cook. One of the rules is that no one else should be cooking separate meals at the same time. But there are days when I don’t want to eat what she cooks, and now I can’t even cook when I want to just because the “landlord” (her boyfriend) said so. Aside from that, the girl has this obsession with keeping things in a certain order. She nitpicks about the tiniest details that don’t even matter. Meanwhile, my friend doesn’t seem to have a problem with any of this, but I feel really uncomfortable living here. I honestly believe she’s the one influencing my friend’s brother. She acts all sweet and innocent, always smiling like she doesn’t talk much, but something just feels off about her. My friend told me her brother wants to propose to her soon. The latest issue now is that my friend’s brother told me to use this entire year to “gather myself and become independent.” I don’t even know what he truly meant by that.
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