Good day everyone, I’m a 22-year-old lady and I’m in a relationship for almost a year now. I’m hardworking and I own a business that gives me really good money. Before I met my boyfriend, things had been shaky for him, which he explained to me. He even had to move out of his house back to his parents’ place. I’ve been the provider of basically everything in the relationship—the dates, the seeing, the lodge, and everything. I also even share money with him; like whenever I get paid, say N1 million, I take half and give him half, sometimes for guidance or to get something. I’ve also been very supportive of him, like also giving him money to invest in businesses and all. So right now, he’s asking for things that are over N4 million, and I honestly didn’t think twice. I told him once I get the money, I’ll give it to him because to me, we’re on the same page and I’m trying to support him to be financially stable. When we started dating, he suggested that if we have enough money, we would start living together. So now the problem is I currently have the money—the over N4 million he wants—and also money enough for us to move out,
and we’ve been talking about it, looking at things for the house and all, only for him to tell me he isn’t ready for us to live together yet and isn’t mentally ready for it. I asked why, and he said he just isn’t yet, and said something about having past experiences and not being ready for it. I cried so much because I thought we were on the same page and building a life together. He said we’re on the same page, but I don’t think so. So now I told myself I wouldn’t give him the N4 million since the relationship isn’t where I thought it was. P.S. I’ve never caught him cheating or anything, and he’s actually very nice to me. He always checks on me and all, like he’s actually a good partner. Please, I need your advice. Am I overthinking?
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