My girlfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago because her friends felt I was controlling her too much by not being supportive of her going to the club late at night with them. Myself and my ex respected each other’s decisions a lot. When I wanted to go to a particular place and she wasn’t cool with it, it’s either she came with me or I just canceled it, and it was the same with her. She has about four close friends. When we met, we started spending enough time together and I discovered how intelligent and business-oriented she was. She was into fashion designing when I met her but had no shop, so I decided to set up a shop for her and I spent over N3 million. I wasn’t feeling bad because she deserved it. We dated for 2 years and a few months. All of a sudden, her closest friend started bringing up her matter in their WhatsApp group, saying how she’s destroying herself because of a man, how she has lost her vibe, and how she turned her back on them because she feels she has the best man and all that. Then the other 3 friends joined in attacking her for not having their time.
The whole stuff started getting into my ex’s head and she started acting up. I actually thought she was seeing another man, so I decided to check her phone. I read their group chat and was shocked by everything her closest friend had said about her and how my ex promised them she would do her best not to listen to me again so she could start going out with them. I read everything but kept it to myself, waiting for her to act on it. Before I knew it, she started going out without telling me. I would call her around 11 p.m. and she would tell me she’s out with friends, and before I could say anything, she would say I’m too controlling, that I should give her freedom, that I’m not her husband yet. And if it’s because of the shop, I should let her know so she can sell the stuff there and send the money to me. It continued like that, and we eventually broke up. I decided not to take anything from the shop. Surprisingly, a few days ago, the same closest friend that caused our breakup started messaging me back to back on Instagram, telling me a broken relationship is not the end of my love life, that I would find someone better,
calling my ex an ingrate and saying how she would suffer to get another man like me. I was shocked hearing all that from her even though she was the reason we broke up. She didn’t know I had read everything. Yesterday, Sunday, she offered to take me out because she didn’t want me thinking about the breakup too much, but I declined. She offered to come cook for me twice, but I declined. I have screenshots of all her messages to me. I already know what she wants, and I won’t let it happen. With time, I will expose her to my ex and send all the screenshots so she knows her friend is actually her enemy. In all this, do you guys think I should send the screenshots to my ex or just block the friend and face my life? It’s so sad a 25-year-old I thought was mature and intelligent would let friends influence her.
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