Hello dear uncles and aunties, I’ll go straight to the point. My course mate is asking me out; he keeps on saying he loves me and all, but can I really date my course mate? A lot of “what ifs” are going through my head. He is my friend—we have been friends for a while, at least 4/5 months—and he knows partially what ended my past relationship. I only told him because I felt we were friends. We do talk a lot; he shares some stories with me too, like we are both free in that talking aspect. Now the problem is, I don’t know what to do. Should I agree? What if we break up? What if he ends up like my last relationship? What if the whole thing is a lie? What if it is actually the truth? I am not someone that dates for fun—that’s the problem. I don’t do “enjoying the moment” or “let’s go with the flow.” I want proper communication on what we both want. Or is it only sex he wants with me? Because he does say stuff like, “I am surely going to sleep with you, but I’ll make sure you are my girlfriend first.” He has shown concern sometimes—when I was sick, he got me food and everything, and like thrice now, he also got me bonnets.
That day I was even insulting him, like why would a man be using bonnets at home, then he offered to get me the bonnets. Please, I am not an almajiri o; I have my own side hustle that earns me N200k/300k/400k per month, so it’s not even like I am looking for money or the food. What’s the intention behind it? I feel like it’s all a fallacy. I also feel like, what if he is treading carefully because he knows how my past relationship treated me? I don’t know what to do, but can I really date my course mate? Please just advise me. Thank you.