Hello Rantz Family, I need your opinion on something bothering me. I recently connected with a guy through my younger sister. We both went to the same secondary school—he was my junior, and I’m older than him by just over a year. He got my number to buy a few things from me, and that’s how we started talking. Since then, he’s brought so much value into my life. He’s introduced me to opportunities that could increase my earnings, he’s been generous, supportive, and incredibly kind. He encourages my growth, treats me with care, and honestly, makes me feel cherished. I’ve been celibate for the past eight months after a painful breakup, and I haven’t connected with anyone on this level since then.
We met in person last week, and the way he looked at me, held me, and made me feel—it was soft, intense, and real. We had sex, and it was passionate. He was gentle, affectionate, and afterward, he didn’t switch up. If anything, he became even more attentive. But here’s where I’m confused: he says he doesn’t want a relationship. He’s not seeing anyone else, and he’s not shady. He’s just not into the idea of being in a relationship, saying he’s focused on work and his personal peace. And yet—he acts like a boyfriend. He’s consistent, affectionate, and gives me that emotional safety I’ve been craving. I’m beginning to develop real feelings for him, and I’m just trying to understand: why would someone treat me this way but not want to commit?
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