I just got out of a long-term relationship, and it’s crazy how much I realize I missed because I wasn’t paying enough attention. I was dealing with someone who was sneakier than I thought. I found out that throughout my five-year relationship, my ex had multiple side pieces. Even though I had my suspicions, I couldn’t find out exactly because I didn’t know how to investigate properly. It was even harder because it was a long-distance relationship—she lived in PH while I lived in Asaba. Even when she made mistakes, they were so small that I didn’t take them seriously. So after our breakup, I sent someone to her former area to find out who she really was—something I should have done from the start—and the things I found out broke my heart. I was heartbroken because my instincts kept telling me something was off, but I didn’t do my due diligence.
Now, after wasting so much time, I’ve learned that it’s important to ask about that lady you’re taking seriously because many of them could be for the streets. She had a side piece close to her church. So whenever she told me she was at church, she would actually leave to go f*ck her side piece and then call me when she got home, saying that church was over.mI got this info after spending a little money, and it messes with my mind because I keep asking myself, “Why didn’t I do this since?” The only joy I feel is that I wasn’t wrong about my suspicions at the time. But it still hurts because I should have done my due diligence a long time ago. I don’t think I’ll ever recover from this.
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