I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for four years now. In the third year, he moved to the UK but didn’t include me as a dependent. Despite that, I stayed committed because I wasn’t in this relationship for money—I literally grew with him. I’ve forgiven him countless times for cheating, yet I’ve never once been unfaithful. But now that he’s abroad, he has become extremely controlling. He demands my location and Apple ID, which I refused to share because I believe it’s wrong. Even then, I always pick up his video calls, even when I’m at work, just to reassure him. Still, it’s never enough. He insists that he must have 100% control over me. Meanwhile, he goes out clubbing and enjoying himself, yet he wants me to stay indoors. Even the few times I step out with my sister, he had problems with it, which leaves me feeling isolated and depressed.
My life has become a routine of just work, home, my tech internship, and sleep. Today, he called and told me that before he considers bringing me to the UK, I must go to juju (a traditional shrine) to swear that I’ve never cheated. I told him I have no problem proving my innocence, but I can’t go to a shrine—I’ve never done that in my life, not even for wealth or favors. The irony? His father is a pastor. So why is he even asking me to do this? At this point, my mental health is in shambles. Every day, it’s a new demand. I’ve even mirrored my phone to him before, yet nothing ever satisfies him. Please, I need unfiltered advice. What should I do before I lose my mind?
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