So, there’s this guy I’ve known for about 9 years now. Met him before I went for NYSC. We’ve been on and off friends. He’s actually a very nice person. About 3 years ago, we decided to give a relationship a try. I wasn’t in the country then, so it was sort of long-distance. He fell sick then, so I ordered some food bowls that’d be enough for at least a week so he wouldn’t have to stress himself to cook. When it was his birthday, I was still away and didn’t have much, so I ordered a cake with money in it, food, and a gift. Mind you, I was a student, so it’s not like I had much. It was just me being me because I believe you don’t have to have too much before you can give. Fast forward to my own birthday, he didn’t even wish me a happy birthday. When I finally reached out to him, he said he felt bad because he couldn’t get me anything for mine, so he didn’t know how to face me.
I stopped speaking to him after that because I felt he didn’t have regard for me. We tried to get back again. I’ve never asked him for a dime, he has never given me a dime or even a gift. Earlier this year, I reached out to him to assist with my business because I had just resigned from my job because my boss was frustrating me, and I needed to focus on my business. He promised he was going to by the end of the month. I didn’t ask again. That was it. He kept telling me something would come. Till date, nothing. The problem now is that we have decided to try a relationship again. I just realized that he is flat broke. Like, broke broke! He can barely feed himself. I have to buy food for him most times. Went to his place to spend the weekend. I had to buy a microwave because there was none there, and I can’t warm my own food with a pot. He claimed he made an investment recently that took all his money.
I can take care of myself, but why should I be with someone that can barely take care of himself, not to talk of me? If he had taken care of me in the past, I would have been more than comfortable to provide for him now he’s going through a rough patch, but that’s not the case. I just feel like I’m being used, especially because I asked for help when he had, and he chose not to help. Yet I have to be nice now. I’ve tried to be nice and not just treat him anyhow because he’s broke, but I don’t think I can continue again because he’s not even thinking about new ways to make money. He’s stuck on what he’s used to that hasn’t been doing much for him. The whole thing is just tiring. Should I keep being a good girl and wait until he finally makes it or just respect myself and move on because it’ll save me a lot of money? He’s 42, by the way.
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