There is a norm among most ladies that they don’t need to work or pursue their careers if their man is doing really well. I told my girlfriend of 3 years that I can’t marry her unless she gets a good job or is doing well enough in any career she chooses, but she just laughed. I don’t see myself settling down with someone who hasn’t set up a life for herself yet. And it’s not about her contributing to anything; I don’t demand anything, and I spend a lot on my girlfriend, and I’ve assisted her in any way possible. What matters to me is her ability to stand on her own two feet, as I am seeking a serious commitment. I lost my dad when I was in JSS3, and my elder siblings were in Year 1 and Year 3. My dad didn’t leave any investments or huge savings, but my mum single-handedly made three of us graduates.
I remember her quitting her job then to start up a business so she could earn more and still spend enough time with her children. I do gift my mum every year on my dad’s remembrance to appreciate her for being our everything after he left. So, seeing a lady whose ambition is to sit and eat her husband’s money without having any value in her life irritates me. Any unforeseen circumstance can befall the husband, leaving the children in a precarious situation because the mum can’t cater for them alone. I’ve witnessed scenarios where families sell businesses, lands, and properties to make ends meet because the wife has no idea how to sustain the business in his absence. Ladies build your career before marriage; it adds tremendous value to your life.
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