There’s this guy I just started dating (we’re five months in), and since then, he has not asked me to spend days with him or a weekend. I don’t know if this is normal. I’ve talked to him about it, and he said he’s not stopping me from doing that if I want to. But I want him to ask me, at least for the first time. I’ve been in a relationship before, and my ex was the one who asked me to spend time with him the first time. I didn’t just start going by myself. Now with this new guy, things are different. I only go to his place during the day and leave at night, though sometimes I sleep over.
He also comes to my place sometimes. About sex—we don’t even have it that often. Whenever I bring this up, he tells me I’m the one who’s not ready. But I feel like if you want me to spend time in your space, you should ask me, even if it’s just once. It’ll make me feel welcome, and then it’ll be easy for me to ask myself next time. I overheard him once talking with his friend, saying that women tend to mess up when you show them too much love. His ex was always with him, and his friend said the same, so they concluded that they won’t give new women too much attention. But why would you think showing a woman love would make her leave?
If we all thought that way, I wouldn’t love you either because my ex took me for granted when I loved him too much. I even saw his chat with his brother, where his brother warned him to hold me tight, and he replied, saying I can never leave no matter what he does. But still, I’m giving love another chance because I know not everyone is the same. The last time I brought it up, he said he wasn’t like this before, but he’s changed. So why should I suffer for what your ex did? Guys, please advise me on what to do. Sorry for the way I typed everything; just try to understand. Thanks, guys.
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