I’m currently 18 years old. I’m a student. I’ve been in only one relationship. Not to brag, but I’m very beautiful, I have a nice body figure, and I look older than my age. The first guy I dated was really nice to me. He bought me gifts and also sent me money often. We dated for more than a year and later broke up because I wasn’t ready for sex. Ever since we broke up, I’ve never seen any guy that’s as nice as him. I later found out that he was a womanizer and had been dating someone for three years before he met me; she was the one giving him the sex I couldn’t give him. He also carried hookup girls. I didn’t find out while we were dating because he was so nice to me and always gave me attention. How can a guy that is sexually active date a virgin for more than a year without having sex with anyone else? Although we did some naughty things, we never had sex. After a year of breaking up, I’ve been single. Everyone that wants to date me keeps making sexual advances toward me. Sometimes I feel like I’m cursed. This month, I found someone who is as nice as my ex. He’s 25 years old. I was at my balcony washing my clothes when he came to visit someone.
He was staying at that compound before he moved out. That day, he asked for my number, bought me dinner, and also sent me money. I was so happy that someone finally treated me right even without me asking. He was my type: tall, cute, and light-skinned. Our conversation was really cool. He came to see me the next day and got me things to eat. He came to meet me at night, so he took me out, and we came back an hour later. He invited me to his room where he was staying at that time. He said it’s his brother who stays there now. We were having a great discussion until he kissed me. I wanted it, but I got upset because he kissed me barely two days after knowing him. I cautioned him, and he apologized. He later told me he had a girlfriend. I was heartbroken because I was already falling in love with him. He said he loved me and that his girlfriend shouldn’t be a problem. I later slept in his room that night. We only kissed and cuddled. I slept there because it had been a long time since I got close to someone; I really needed someone by my side. I was really happy that night. Remember, I said earlier that I’m a virgin, so I’m not ready for sex because I’m afraid that any guy who has sex with me will dump me.
That night, he professed love to me, saying that I’m the best and that he’d do anything for me. He also complimented me, saying I smell nice, that I’m beautiful, and that I’m neat. He also said he didn’t want sex from me. The same thing happened again the next day because he spent two days at his brother’s place. Mind you, I never saw his brother enter that room. I don’t know if he was lying that he no longer lives there because I had told him earlier that I don’t like having anything to do with my neighbors to avoid gossip. He went back to town because I’m staying in a school area. I started avoiding him because I was already falling in love and he has a girlfriend. He kept reminding me that his girlfriend doesn’t matter, that it’s me he wants. He came to visit again. We stayed at his brother’s room. That night, he tried making sexual advances toward me, but I declined. I asked him what about his girlfriend, and he said the same thing again. He wanted me to perform oral sex, he wanted us to have sex, but I told him I’m not ready because we just met. He tried touching me inappropriately, but I refused, and he got upset.
He said that I don’t love him, which is why I don’t want to have sex with him. He’s been giving me attitude ever since, but I love him so much, and he knows I’m a virgin. I just feel like if I let this guy go, I’ll never see anyone like him again. I’ve only known him for a week, but to me, he’s the best. Please, what should I do? I need your advice. I’m tired of being lonely.
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