I dated this guy who spends on me when he has money. Two weeks after we started dating, it was his birthday. He hadn’t really sent me any money, but I’m not someone who wouldn’t gift a partner on their birthday, so I bought him two luxury perfumes and subbed him over N20k data. He was happy and all that. We mostly lodged and went out a lot, and he sent me money when I asked. Then Valentine’s Day came, and I also bought him a luxury male bag. That was all I got him because I didn’t have much, but he didn’t buy me anything on Valentine’s Day. He sent me money and later got me a power bank because I specifically asked him for that. He also got me chocolates, a lot of them. Then my birthday came, and he did well too, but he started complaining of having no money and that he was broke. He still sent me some money, though, and I didn’t complain. I mean, why would I?
But it got serious when he started giving me attitude and neglecting me. My body would be irritated. He would even ghost me when we had issues because I got tired and gave him space, and he didn’t even try to talk things over with me. I understood that he was broke, but it became serious. He cheated on me once, and I forgave him. Early June, I went out with a male friend to a game center to play games, and he got angry and started quarreling with me. I apologized, but it didn’t end there. What’s paining me is that he thinks I’m having something to do with that friend, like WTF? That friend knows I’m in a relationship, and he wouldn’t dare disrespect me. Omo, no be small wahala o. He kept nagging about the issues, and we stopped talking,
so I went to buy him male wears and boxers to make him happy because I got tired of apologizing for going out with my own friend simply because he’s a guy. We later broke up because he never stopped using the fact that I went out with my friend against me. I’m just confused as to why guys hate their fellow guys this way. Six months of relationship, and I never once cheated. I don’t even like sex to begin with, not to talk of doing it with someone I’m not in love with, but this guy is so hard to deal with. Maybe it’s because he’s Edo and used to their girls’ way of life because the guy is so insecure, Jesus Christ. I’m Igbo, though.
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