Hi everyone, I am 20 years old, and for a long time I have felt like people just use me. I left Lagos to attend a programme, and while there I met a girl. I really liked her, and whenever she asked me for something, I gave it to her, whether it was food or little things she wanted. I kept doing this because I thought she liked me too. But whenever I tried to talk about us, she would avoid the topic. Sometimes she even called me her brother, which I told her I did not like, but still nothing changed. By the end of the programme, nothing ever happened between us. It was not just her. Even other people there would ask me for things and I would always say yes. If they needed me to add money to their food or buy something for them, I did it. I just could not bring myself to say no, even when I wanted to. Eventually, I had to let everything go and move on. A few months later, I reconnected with a girl from my area. At first, we were supposed to date, but I was moving slowly and before I knew it she found someone else. Later, when I came back, I discovered she was no longer with him, so I decided to finally tell her how I felt. She said she needed time and I respected that.
But as time went by, I noticed the same pattern again. She started asking me for things and I kept giving. I would go to her house to help her with things, buy her stuff, and do favours. Then today, she called me brother again, the same word that hurt me the first time. Now I am left wondering, why does this keep happening to me? Am I overthinking it, or am I really just being used? Please, I would like to know your honest opinion. Advise me like you would your younger brother.
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