I’m dating two guys, but I want to cut one off. I don’t know which one to choose, or should I just play along? The first one is in the same state as me, but the other one is in a long-distance relationship, in a completely different country. I’ve not been with either of them for up to a month. The first one in the same state has been with me for about two weeks, and the one in a different country for one week. I’m really confused because the one outside (let’s call him Mr. B) is a good person. This guy has spent up to N300k on me in just a week of dating. I met him through his mum before he left the country. He’s 24, and his mum has been complaining she has never seen him with a woman. According to him, he doesn’t know how to talk to a woman, so she gave him my contact after I helped her pay her transport fare in a bus we entered one day. Now, the guy is sweet. Every day, he’s like: “Babe, what do you want?”
“Have you cleared your cart?” “Do you like this?” “Do you like that?” “Send me the bill.” Honestly, he’s so sweet and nice to me, but the issue is that he doesn’t have a way of coming back to Nigeria for about five years. He says I should wait for him. Five years keh???! 😒 The other one in the same state—I have to remind him to do stuff. It doesn’t matter, actually, because he still sends, but my instincts tell me this one is not real with me, and he only wants 🐱. I’ve had something to do with his friend (I was dating his friend, and it lasted for just two weeks, but we didn’t know each other then, and it’s been a year now). It was when he posted his friend on the guy’s birthday that I realized. I told him I dated his friend, and he was shocked, but afterward, he said it’s fine. He likes me still and wants to date me. That’s how we started dating. He hasn’t done anything with me, and I’ve not let him yet,
but my instincts keep telling me this guy is after something. My friends and sisters say he might be real with me and that I should stop overthinking things. He’s already talking about s**, which people flirt about, right? But his own is too serious, like he wants it so badly anytime we flirt. He says he’s never been celibate, and since getting into a relationship, he has to cut off people he’s been with. How can he cut them off when I’m not ready yet? He tries to explain to me that he’s a man and has never stayed a week without 🐱. He says he’s patient with me—anytime I’m ready is fine. We talked about this after I saw female stuff in his house, and he says he understands where I’m driving at but that I shouldn’t rush things. Omo, I like him, but omoooooo. My friends say I shouldn’t expect commitment immediately. Omo, please, your advice: Should I just stay and see how everything goes? Infact, just tell me something I need to know, please.
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