My ex consistently chose ego over love. This is someone who cheated on me more than once, and I still forgave him. I also noticed a strange pattern — whenever I was preparing for exams, issues would suddenly come up between us, almost like a distraction, and I began to see it as a bad omen. The breaking point came when his aunt visited from the U.S. with her kids. They were preparing for a road trip, and as a supportive girlfriend, I helped her pack while also arranging both my things and his. In the rush, I forgot my bag in the hotel room. Just two minutes after we left, I realized and told him. Instead of showing understanding, he shouted at me in front of his aunt, her kids, and his elder brother — as though I had committed a serious offense. Even his 13-year-old cousin from the UK had to say, “Auntie, sorry o,” which was both embarrassing and eye-opening. I raised the issue later, hoping he would reflect, but for days he refused to admit fault. On the third day, he gave an insincere apology with excuses. I got upset and told him I needed to clear my head, so I placed my phone face-up on the bed.
Baba got angry, hung up, and ignored my calls. When he eventually answered, he ranted, ended the call, and cut me off. After that, no matter how I called or texted, he never replied. What shocked me most was that his family and friends blamed me, insisting I should be the one to apologize — for someone who shouted at me in public. And this wasn’t even the first or second time he had acted like this. Still, out of respect, I went to visit his mum with a gift and bought things for the kids. As I was leaving, she asked me to call when I got home. Unfortunately, due to unforeseen circumstances, I couldn’t call until after 10pm. She didn’t pick — which I understood since she sleeps early — so I sent her a voice note. Her only reply was, “Okay, no problem.” No “thank you for the gift,” no “how is your sister that was unwell,” nothing. The one that really burst my head was his younger sister messaging me saying, “I heard you came over, thanks for what you gifted my mum” — as if it was my duty. So now I ask: after forgiving his betrayals, enduring constant ego, and still respecting his family, was I really the problem?
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