I got pregnant for my boyfriend and because we already had plans to get married, it kicked off immediately. Unfortunately, it got called off at the dying minute (for unknown reasons), and all the funds disbursed for the marriage had to be refunded. My parents and family were so angry about the whole thing. They called my boyfriend and told him the implication of me giving birth without my bride price being paid. They explained that the child would not bear his name and all, and he reluctantly agreed that I should give birth first. When I gave birth, we did the birth certificate and all, and the babies are bearing my family name (I gave birth to twins), to which I told him. After some back and forth, he sent money for their upkeep for 7 months (i.e. they were born in 2024 as preterm, so he sent money for December to June of the following year). He came to me on one occasion saying he wants to plead with my father to let the kids bear his name, but I reminded him of the agreement he had initially and consented to.
I explained to him that I would never deny him access to the children because I know they are his. Fast forward to April, he stopped checking up on the kids or asking after them. Then he started telling me that he wanted us to speak, so we finally had a meeting on 4th May (Father’s Day), and what this gentleman came up with is that he has been thinking about his life lately and that if the children won’t bear his name, he won’t be responsible for them anymore and he would forget about them. I simply told him that I will discuss with my family and give him feedback. I personally know that my dad would not agree to this. What do you guys think about this?
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